What were the special moments dads made with us? Research says that dads react with kids differently from mums. Mums usually nurture in their familiar way. When we reflect in the memory of dad, we realise he played dozens of different games. Dr Peter West explores more.
It starts with “Peek a boo, where’s Dad? Here I am!” We tickle, we chuck balls, we play hide and seek. Watch dads at a café play with kids in their care. Of course, we do lots of other nurturing stuff as well. I’m always encouraging Dads to read to their sons and daughters.
“Let’s read your favourite story together!” Boys often want to read a weird range of guy-stuff. What we do with our kids can last a lifetime. Memories are linked to happy feelings: music; celebrations; fun in a safe place. And a strong feeling of “I’m special, and I’m loved”.
In memory of my dad
Will your kids have happy memories of you? I hope so! Someone said “We don’t stop playing because we get old. We get old because we stop playing”. DaddiLife also continues to feature what to do to keep those memories.
My own dad taught me to swim. We went down to the ocean baths and he would put me in the water, stand a little bit away and say ”just swim to me.” Then he would take a step back and I would swim towards him. Another step back- and so on. So eventually I swam the length of the pool. I still swim in the ocean many times a week, right through the year.
Your memories of dad
So in memory of dad everywhere, let’s hear some other stories from people in many parts of the world. What did your dad do with YOU?
“I loved going canoeing with you. My son was amazed that I know how to paddle properly!”
– K.O.
“I have vivid memories of doing unusual things like chucking Suzie , our labrador, in the back of the car and taking her for a run and swim in the creek. As I got older, I remember just enjoying the quiet “down times” with you. We would read the paper together or you would make me soup and toast soldiers and we would watch TV together.”
“Dad would let me ride on his scooter with him and I felt the wind rushing through my hair. Later on I got my own scooter and it used to hurtle me through the crowded streets of Mumbai.”
“The canoe trips – a definite highlight. And being able to rampage around in the bush in that strange old house where we had holidays.”
-S.W.
OK guys, over to you. What did YOUR dad do with you that you’ll always remember?
And ask your kids – let’s hear what they love to do with you, too.
Dr Peter West
